The Bellevue Men's & Women's Health Groups seek to help men and women cultivate the skills needed to engage in healthy courtship and intimacy practices. The meetings are focused on practicing, in a safe space, ways to increase one’s intimacy skills with the goal of then connecting with others. The meetings will focus on skills-building topics such as social anxiety, marital attunement, healthy courtship, shame resiliency, worthiness, and vulnerability practices. The group’s framework is mindful of emotional safety, and of the courage it takes to be vulnerable.
Each meeting will support psycho-education, drawn from cutting-edge research, to help you understand what makes a relationship successful and how to work toward that with your partner. You will learn how "understanding your partner’s brain and attachment style can help you diffuse conflict and build a secure relationship." (Wired for Love, Tatkin, S., 2011, p. 2).
The group draws from several different resources for learning. Group members will learn from the following resources: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong (Dr. Brene Brown), Wired for Love, Wired for Dating (Dr. Stan Tatkin), and Self Compassion (Dr. Kristin Neff).
Currently, this group meets separately as a Men's group and a Women's group, and is facilitated by Steve Sandvik and meets for 90 minutes weekly. Please contact us for more information. An intake is required prior to attending any of La Perla Counseling's Therapeutic Support Groups.
The Bellevue Health Groups will support each other in the journey towards engaging life with a whole heart. The following manifesto, written by Brene Brown, is a core teaching in this group.
MANIFESTO OF THE BRAVE AND BROKENHEARTED
There is no greater threat to the critics
and cynics and fearmongers
Than those of us who are willing to fall
Because we have learned how to rise.
With skinned knees and bruised hearts;
We choose owning our stories of struggle,
Over hiding, over hustling, over pretending.
When we deny our stories, they define us.
When we run from struggle, we are never free.
So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye.
We will not be characters in our stories.
Not villains, not victims, not even heroes.
We are the authors of our lives.
We write our own daring endings.
We craft love from heartbreak,
Compassion from shame,
Grace from disappointment,
Courage from failure.
Showing up is our power.
Story is our way home. Truth is our song.
We are the brave and brokenhearted.
We are rising strong.